so i've had this bf of almost 2 years..we were going good..like everything was perfect..we were supposed to get married..he asked my best friend what my ring size was and on my birthday last year he was going to ask me that question or so he was supposed to but w/e..anywaiz on wid my story..
so it starts off like this..
me n him met here on AYA..i'm from cali..he's from NY..he didnt have a job when we first met but i didnt care cuz i loved him for him..not cuz he was a broke ass nigguhh or if he had money it didnt make a diff. to me..so his brother got him a job as an electrician..he came to visit me in january `08 cuz my parents paid for his ticket.. we went everywhere like disneyland and sea world..cuz he told me he's always wanted to see sharks and a killer whale..i did what i could to keep him happy..so i wanted to go visit him in NY for spring break..i was still in high school..i kept buggin my parents to plz let me go..they finally let me go see him..he spent his first pay check on my plane ticket to go see him..i promised him that whenever i had a break from school i would like to go see him..he didnt mind spending money just so i could go see him..but newaiz..i came back in the summer and stayed with him for 2 months and things were great a fwe arguments here and there..it was so much easier to make up when we're with each other cuz we can't stay mad at each other for too long especially when we're practically living with each other for a while..but things started to happen after the summer..he changed..he started getting mad at me more and more..i stayed home so he'd trust that i aint doing anythign stupid..the only time i really went out was with my best friend..and i'd tell him..i went clubbing out one time with my homegirls and my homegirls cousin santino..he was our body guard cuz we all had bf's..i didnt tell him i went clubbing i told him i was going out with my friends..i came home at three in the morning and called him to say i'm home safe..he asked where i was..i didnt exactly tell him where i was at..i told him i stayed at the park with my friends..but i told him the next day what i really did..he got so mad he wanted a break..so i didnt talk to him for a while..then it'd go to the point where'd he'd miss me and call me..i pick up thinking he's gunna get back with me but no..i beg him and kept saying sorry cuz it was my fault..still no..i waited another 2 weeks..i eventually got tired of his bullshit..i started talking to his boii..we got close but i didnt get too close..cuz i still loved him..[my ex]..so i talked things out with my ex and he came down in november to spend thanksgiving with me and my family..then a week later..i took off school early cuz i had no finals for my classes..all i had was an optional final and a portfolio which my teacher said i can just email it to him cuz they were all essays..so i go there threw him a surprise bday party..his boii asked me if it was cool to chill..like a few days later while my ex was still at work..i said yeah sure..shit happened between me and him..my ex found out and broke up wid me..but thing was i was pregnant with my ex's kid..he didnt want it cuz we werent together..i told him i'd get an abortion just to make him happy..he got back with me after..but little did i know he had another gf..but let's just leave it at that..so well maybe i deserve that..
point is...never give your life to someone or your heart..unless they can pove to you that theirs is yours as well..
so he ended my life.. for me to start a new one.. without him but with someone new.. i'm glad i'm happier now without him..no more suppressing myself at home..i can finally go out no strings attached..but yeah i found someone closer and loves me for me..and i mean closer as in same area well that's all!
oh yeah, that's good you surpassed what you went through and are happy now. that phrase you mentioned, something like "never make someone a priority if you are just an option"
well that's all! 
